Vaginismus – When Your Body Says “No” to Penetration

Vaginismus – When Your Body Says “No” to Penetration

Dear BVTalks,
I’m 26, and every time I try to have sex, it feels like I’m hitting a wall. Even putting in a tampon feels impossible. I get so tense that I start to panic. I’ve never been able to have pain-free penetration, and I’m starting to think something is seriously wrong with me. Is this just anxiety?
— Scared and Frustrated, 26

If your body automatically tenses up and makes penetration feel impossible, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. This is called vaginismus, and it happens when your pelvic floor muscles tighten without your control.

Signs you might have it:
Burning or sharp pain with any penetration
Feeling like there’s a wall blocking entry
Anxiety or panic during attempts

Why does it happen?
Vaginismus can start after trauma, pain, or sometimes no clear reason. It’s your body trying to protect you, but it doesn’t mean you have to live this way forever.

Treatment options:
Pelvic floor physical therapy with a specialist
Vaginal dilators—used gently over time to retrain your muscles
Counseling for anxiety and fear responses
Education—because knowing what’s happening is the first step

You deserve a provider who believes you and knows how to help. Healing is possible, and you are absolutely not alone.

BVTalks